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  • Writer's pictureEllen

Is Freedom a Choice?

Updated: Nov 24, 2020

As we approach Independence Day 2020, I’ve been thinking a lot about freedom.  

For me, the ultimate freedom is the ability to choose to feel the way I want to feel regardless of what is showing up for me to the contrary. I can choose to be a victim of another’s actions and words and feel stressed and unhappy or I can choose peace and love.

By choosing peace and love, I’m not ignoring reality. I’m simply using my free will to process issues through this lens and live the life I want. This freedom is mine and it can’t be taken away as it lives within me. It is always here for me to choose.

This freedom exists for you too. It’s possible even in your darkest days and most unsettled times.

Anger, resentment and grudges trap us in the past. We are not free to be present and enjoy life in this moment. Harsh judgment of ourselves and others limits our joy and keep us from achieving our full potential. If we are living in the past, we are not free to have the full experience of life.  

Is freedom a choice? 

I once had a dear client who came to me to learn how to choose joy during her husband’s long and painful cancer treatments so that they could enjoy their last year together. They spent the year mindfully focused on having the experiences they could. They even planned and enjoyed a virtual trip to Hawaii from his hospital bed. 

Despite his pain and their shattered dream of enjoying retirement together, they chose freedom and loved until the end. It was one of the most beautiful expressions of love and courage I have seen. My relationship with them changed me. 

Anything is possible. Freedom from pain and suffering is a choice we can make. Freedom lives within.

This month in coaching I helped empower a woman who had unknowingly carried anger in her body, which caused her lifelong pain and anxiety. She felt trapped by her conditions and couldn’t connect with family and friends the way she wanted to. Her willingness to live a full and beautiful life was the energy we used to release her attachment to the past. Today, she shared that she felt free for the first time in her life!

The 4th of July is the day we typically gather with friends, eat great foods and sip on those refreshing beverages...

Perhaps this year, given all we’ve experienced, you’ll also consider looking within and freeing yourself from the thoughts, beliefs and habits that keep you from feeling joy, peace and love.

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